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Racism in Korea?

Even before coming to Korea, I have seen so many videos and blog posts of people saying that they are victims of racism in Korea. I am going to address this matter. 

People should not confuse curiosity and naivety with racism.

The thing that I noticed during both of my times in Korea, is that people stare. People stare at white people, people stare at Indian people, people stare at Black people. This is reality. I get stared at in Hackney (London)! One of the most culturally diverse towns in the world, so of course people will stare in a country that has only recently (in the past 5-10 years) seen an increase in foreigners. I have actually received more racism from Americans than Koreans since living here (But that’ll have to be another post).

I believe that instead of the colour of your skin, it is your attitude and the way that you present yourself which depends on the type of attention you get. This could easily explain several points that people make when talking about racism in Korea. 

1. Taxi drivers driving off – I actually have never experienced this in Korea. But there can be a possible reason why it could happen. If you see the light in the taxi window flashing, it is hired already. Only when the writing is a solid red colour is the taxi free. 

2. Taxi drivers refusing to take you – I have seen this happen but it is because the foreigner simply jumped in the taxi or popped their head into the window and stated the place where they wanted to go. I understand the taxi driver at this point. It is common decency to say hello or excuse me to a person before talking to them. I’m pretty sure all foreigners here know how to say ‘hello’ in Korean.

3. Not respecting the countries culture – Now, this is the one point which has to be stressed the most. You are in a foreign country. I know, I always hear American and sometimes British people say ‘I’m not a foreigner’. For some reason it has become hard for some western people to accept that, we are in fact foreigners in Korea and everywhere around the world apart from our home countries! When you are in a foreign country, you must slightly adapt to the way things run. 
I’m not saying be fluent in Korean before you get here or change your personality so you fit in. Just be respectful. Before moving to another country to live, you should educate yourself a little bit in understanding how respect works in that country. Otherwise you have nobody to blame but yourself. This sounds a bit harsh but you need to get off your high horse. 

4. Clothing culture – Now I know this is also one that foreigners won’t understand. One way which I can explain it is, would you go to Saudi Arabia wearing a Bikini? If you answer yes, good luck. You won’t even get past immigration no matter where you are from or who you are.
In Korea, it is simple. Wear the shortest skirt you want but do not show cleavage. If you aren’t slim, then unfortunately no matter what you wear you will probably be stared at. This doesn’t have to be a negative thing. It is known that Koreans (especially women) have slim frames. People who stare are merely curious and maybe a little judgmental but it is not about race. Korea is known as a country which considers appearance a lot. Appearance, not race.

5. Smile!! If somebody is staring at you, don’t give them a full teeth smile, just smile a little. Chances are they will smile back at you. 

6. Live your life without caring about what other people think. When I first came to Korea, I didn’t notice people staring at me but my friends would notice it. Even this time, I wouldn’t notice but people who I am with would notice. I know they are staring at me, but I don’t care so it doesn’t bother me.
So, listen to your music, talk to your friend, sit on your phone, stare in to space, read a book. Do anything to take your attention off people staring at you. 

The most important thing that I want people to take out of this blog post is that YOU are making it a big deal. You are assuming that Koreans are being racist. Change your attitude and the reasons why you think people are staring at you. I am almost certain that then you will enjoy your time here more. I have received nothing but kindness from Koreans since I have been in Korea. I am sure that this is because I respect the Korean culture, I give out positive energy and I do not focus on negatives. 

So, think positive people!! 

If you have a different opinion to mine or if you agree with what I have said in this blog post, please let me know by commenting below ^^

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Re-Inspired

This is a blog post which I wrote a year ago on my tumblr. I felt re-inspired again when I read it so thought I’d post it here.

Today, I read an interview that I came across a while back. It’s been a while since I have been this inspired. Ryan Feng, I give thanks to you for being amazing.So the interview I read was on The Other Asians by Julie Zhan. Although I had skimmed through the interview, I am happy I came across it again.I recently made a post called Losing Faith , which was about me not being happy with Quest any-more. I now realise that I wrote that post when I was upset. Now I have stopped and decided to look at my opinion in a different light. And Feng made me remember why I love Quest.

Feng speaks about how the crew work together and how they hate each other but in a brotherly way:

‘But it worked out for us because we hated each other in a loving way.Like I can hate on my crew, but no one else can. I got their backs andwe love each other.’

But, Feng also inspired me in other ways than just re-finding my love for Quest. He speaks about who he is. This has inspired me to embrace myself and not care so much about what others are like.

‘Be who you are, and let that be the definition. It’s like being in love.What does that mean to me? What does that mean to you? It’s differentfor everyone, but there’s only one word for it.’

Everyone is different.

Feng thank you for making me realise that you can pursue more than one career. Although you said yourself you aren’t a a photographer or a writer, you made me realise that If I want, I can be creative in more than one way, like artists.

‘What I can express in dancing won’t come out in writing. But what I canwrite can’t be expressed in dancing. What I photograph can depict whatwriting can’t, etc, etc. Those are my three main avenues that I feelcomfortable expressing myself in. Will I become a photographer orwriter, I don’t know.’

I am going to confess that I dance in my room! haha. It’s embarrassing but, oh well! And although I don’t see myself becoming a dancer, your words of wisdom to aspiring dancers, has inspired me to get serious about what I love to do and what I want to be part of my life.

‘If you want to dance and you want dance to be a part of your life, justdo it. You don’t have to book a job or have other people tell you you’regood to be a dancer. But if you want to book jobs, go out of your comfort zone and learn everything. Get used to people telling you you’re not good.’

So, thanks for inspiring me again Feng!

Oh and congrats on making it to Europe with Quest! It wasn’t the whole of Quest, but I enjoyed watching you perform with LMFAO and I think I was screaming more for Quest than LMFAO! =P Although I didn’t actually get to meet you guys, it was an amazing experience to see you perform!

Hope to see you in London again!!

For the full interview with Feng by The Other Asians, please visit their website and make sure to subscribe and donate! http://theotherasians.com/

Follow Feng and Quest Crew on twitter! @justfeng & @TheQuestCrew

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Winning!

Tuesday night, I went to a Japanese meet up in London. It’s an event where people who are interested in Japanese culture & Japanese people in London meet up once a month.

So there was this Japanese guy, who has super attractive! I spotted him early in the night. Maybe an hour after getting there. However, at this meet up there are so many people it’s hard to stand still, let alone make conversation!

After attempting to make friends with other people, I saw two guys sitting at a table which can seat 8 people. I am exhasted because I’ve been awake since 5am! So I grab my friend and we sit. I turn to look at the people sitting on the table, it’s the cute guy!

So we start talking. I find out he studied some media communication course at uni, which is super similair to Journalism. Anyway, we are in a deep conversation, when we are suddenly interupted.

A girl comes up to him, only him, not his friend. ‘Hi, my friend wants to talk to you cause she thinks your cute! I’m Miss rude-ass & my friend is…’. So I am gob-smacked! How can you just come & interupt somebodies conversation?! Let alone a guy who is talking to a girl. I could have been his girlfriend for all she knew!

Anyway, he polietly but awkwardly introduced himself. But then, he turned his back on them!! =D I was so happy! Not only was I happy because he was more interested in me, but I was happy because he also thought that the way they approached him was rude!

If there is one thing I know about approaching guys, it is that you should look at the situation from a distance & wait for him to end his conversation if he is having one! Isn’t it common sense?!

Anyway, he wrote his number on a napkin for me! Which I think was cute because people don’t do that anymore! And the fact I didn’t ask for it makes it a win x2!

Wish me luck with this guy! I have super bad luck with guys I like so maybe this will work out!

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It’s been ages!

Hello,

I feel like not a lot of people follow this blog, so I feel like I am talking to myself! But if you do come across my blog, HEY!!!

Update on me:

I finished level two of my degree in early May. As I had a lot of spare time on my hand, I thought I would start blogging more. However, I have had the busiest two months. I’ll explain.

So in January, I applied for a job that my friend recommended me for. They called me back in April and asked me to come in for an interview! As you all know I hate my current job, I was ecstatic! So I went in, it went well. One week later I got a phone call telling me that I have got the job!
(But unfortunately, I am still stuck at my old job because the new one is not permanent yet.)
I started work there last week and I love it!! The people are nice, the job is interesting, I’m happy!

I know, a new job doesn’t make life overly busy. So here is the big news!

I am going to Korea to study for a month!! I’m not sure if you know, but I love East, North-East and South-East Asian culture!! So this is an amazing opportunity for me! My university is paying for tuition and accommodation, so all I pay for is flights and spending money!

I am very excited! SO… hopefully when I am out there, I will do vlogs and more blog posts since I will have something specific to talk about!

Anyway, it’s time for me to sleep as I have work tomorrow morning! But I will be updating you guys (if there is anyone there) very soon!